This removes most of the code used for polylith/API mode.
This removes the `/api` internal endpoints entirely.
Binary size change roughly 5%:
```
51437560 Feb 13 10:15 dendrite-monolith-server # old
48759008 Feb 13 10:15 dendrite-monolith-server # new
```
This adds store & forward relays into dendrite for p2p.
A few things have changed:
- new relay api serves new http endpoints for s&f federation
- updated outbound federation queueing which will attempt to forward
using s&f if appropriate
- database entries to track s&f relays for other nodes
This should hopefully finally fix issues about `disk I/O error` as seen
[here](https://gitlab.alpinelinux.org/alpine/aports/-/jobs/955030/raw)
Hopefully this will also fix `SSL accept attempt failed` issues by
disabling HTTP keep alives when generating a config for CI.
